Sunday, December 1, 2013


Can physical attraction be seen in a synastry chart? Lets make sure we are on the same page. Physical attraction is when one finds the other attractive or is sexually attracted to them correct? 
Assuming this is close enough then we would first look to where in the chart shows the person's appearance. For this we would look at the Ascendant for this describes a person's appearance, The Sun sign can give us more clues since it represents our expression of the energies. Venus would definitley be involved since Venus represents not only who we attract but what we find attractive as well, along with other things but to narrow it down for the sake of physical attraction, Venus would be involved. We also need to consider Pluto, this is because Pluto is magnetism, seduction, sexual energy force or kundalini. He is invisible but we are hypnotized, mesmerized or held in a trance under his presense. He also points to what we must have, our passions, desires, lusts or carnal desires. For this he must be considered as well as the others. In synastry when one's Venus is Conjunct the others Ascendant, they would both more than likely find the other beautiful, or attractive and it would point to physical desire. Of course this is not always the case, but it shows attraction or that you find the other person pleasant to look at and even spend time with. In a love relationship this aspect makes for true love, because both people just like each other a lot at the minimum. Both people usually feel the same but the Venus persons desire and attraction would be directed at the Ascendant person, meaning the Venus person would be attracted to the Ascendant person.  

For the Ascendant person the Venus person makes them feel good, and probably looks good beside them, also the Venus person might naturally want to do a lot for the Ascendant person, they would be nice and sweet with each other, but also very sensual. 

The Venus person would also find they just get a long with the Ascendant person and have a lot of the same qualities.

Mutual Attraction

We all want the one that we are hot over , to feel the same. Most of the time, we go on our spidy senses to tell us whether or not we believe the other feels the same way. Often there are signs, like a special look, or catching them eyeballing us, to unnecessary phone calls or texts, to showing up at our door. The problem is that not everyone is open about their feelings, as a matter of fact some pretend they don't like you. We all know these things happen so how can Astrology help? Well, it can only help if you have the persons birth info, let's be honest.

Mutual attraction is complex, Yes the easy part is we say " double whammys" or aspects going both ways between them. If you want to know if your desired is attracted to you there is a lot to look at and I have a feeling this post will turn out very long. I am going to try to shorten it now as I write.

If you want to know if they find you pretty or handsome, you definitely look at aspects with Venus or Neptune to the Ascendant, Sun, or if Venus tranposes into others first house from yours. 

Neptune isn't as reliable as Venus but Neptune can create quite a canvas to put any dream lovers face on, so it's something to look at when looking for attraction. Neptune tends to idealized the partner. So Neptune Conjunct anothers Ascendant, Sun, and sometimes Moon, along with Neptune in partners 7th house can bring about elated attractions. The person would find them mystical, or see them as a movie star or someone glamorous.

However, Venus in the same aspects as above would point to attraction and desire for the other person as they are. The Ascendant person might find the Venus person beautiful but even if not their is something about them that is attractive. The Venus person usually feels a strong attraction to the Ascendant person.

Pluto Conjunct the others Ascendant also reflects powerful attractions but can be too intense for many. Pluto wants what it wants and sometimes there is no rationale behind it. Pluto is our intense desires, and it's often a magnetic attraction between the two. Both people can freak out, because it's pretty intense. But if both people like this type of intensity, feeling like your under a spell then this shows mutual attraction. Pluto wants the Ascendant and the Ascendant is under Pluto's spell. This can go both ways or vice versa. It's a sexy aspect and it is usually quite irresistable although it does have potentially negative side of control issues or obsession. This goes both ways, but  more often than not I have seen the Ascendant person just as obsessed with the Pluto person.

Pluto Conjunct the other's Sun has a similar effect it holds you both in a spell. The attraction is usually mutual if both are comfortable with the energy, otherwise they run. Nonetheless there is attraction, sometimes I guess too much.

Now, just becasue there is physical attraction it does not mean that the relationship has long lasting potential those are seen further in the synastry where we can see what would keep the couple going for the long run. Each person is different in their likes and it's too much to write them all out here. 

But a quick example is if your Partner has their Venus in Aquarius they may look for mental stimulation and if you have your Mercury in Aquarius they might be turned on by your mind and good communication always makes a good relationship. 

If the person is more sensual and physical than a intellectual relationship might be last on their list. As you can see there are just too many potentials but you always should start with the individual chart understanding what they are about and what they like, to better understand the synastry between the two. 

I am writing more about the planet aspects for longevity, and the many different types of attractions based on Venus. If you are looking for the one and only or your Twin Flame you might want to check out my post on Twin Flames, it's called Twin Flames: Are you ready?. Since this article is a bit more shallow and purely about attraction.

Physical Attraction is not the only reason why two people fall in love, but it is one of the fastest routes and can sometimes override some of the lesser compatibilities, although not usually for the long run.

Here is the break-down of the different types of attractions.

Physical Attraction and Chemistry here are some of the most powerful aspects that indicate Physical Attraction.

All aspects from Venus to an others Ascendant show attraction, (including the hard aspects) however the harder aspects may have difficulties over the long run. 

The easier aspects add a beauty and grace to the relationship, you both will be diplomatic, appreciative and romantic. Venus does not like to fight, she prefers to get along, being the ruler of Libra it makes sense. She understands partnership, and when we see Venus in synastry it shows, our ability to partner and our willingness to make it work.

( As always This is the best if aspects go both ways but is not necessary.)

Love for their mind

Of course as always there are other aspects that can make someone attracted your mind (Mercury good Aspects) Mercury Conjunct, Trine, or Sextile your Partners personal planets are amazing for getting along. 

You both enjoy talking to one another and appreciate one another for their mental gifts " Intelligence". You will likely say the person is smart to others. That's sexy.

If you have both these you are in good, however, there are many aspects to take  into consideration in each others natal chart as well.  Other aspects may prevent some of the better one's from playing out. For some of these See: Astrological Love Blockers

Assuming you don't have any of the blockers, then here are some additional aspects that show attraction to one another.


Planets in each other's First house

This causes a great deal of attraction on many levels, you both enjoy mirroring yourselves in one another. You are a lot alike", you get along really well. You have the similar energy, so you will enjoy doing things together at the same time". That's a biggie".  Venus in your partner's 1st house shows they are attracted to you and that they make you feel understood and appreciated.

Venus Conjunct, Trine, or Sextile your Partners Ascendant

( ideally double whammy or both ways)

This is an indication of immediate attraction as well as long term attraction so this aspect is very favorable.  Both parties are usually mutually attracted. The Venus person is apt to see the Ascendant person as very attractive, and there will be a strong physical attraction as well. The Ascendant person will usually find the Venus person very attractive as well, however, it is preferable of the Venus Ascendant aspect are both ways and in an easy aspect with each other. This is similar to the effect of Venus Sun positive Aspects which means you find no flaws with each other.

Venus Conjunct, Trine or Sextile your Partners Sun

This one is hard to beat again the double whammy is preferred both ways. This is one that is I think is the best aspect in attraction, simply because you don't see each others faults and you just plain adore each other. You both find each other beautiful or handsome and it doesn't seem to fade over time.

Venus Conjunct, Trine or Sextile your Partners Moon

This is similar to the Venus-Sun but much more emotional but when you love one another, you just gotta get physical. This is a very strong attraction factor and produces great chemistry between the two.

Sexual Attraction Indications

Mars in your Partners 1st house

This is especially true if it is the woman's Mars in the Man's 1st house. However, one of the 1st aspects must apply for this sets off the sexual aggression and desire quite strongly if there is a mutual attraction to each other. The Mars person will tend to be the aggressor, and won't be able to keep their hands off the other. Strong sexual energy with this one. However, it is important that they have some nice aspects or it can come across in the opposite and aggression and aggravations, arguing and physical fighting. Let's hope it's the Woman's Mars and there is the mutual attraction.

Mars-Pluto Aspects ( All)

This makes no difference who is Pluto and who is Mars and it also makes no difference whether the aspect is hard or fluent, although fluent makes it less competitive and aggressive. There is something about two sexually energetic planets making an aspect to another that can put all the other sexual aspects to  shame. This is a carnal desire and want, and it is constant. Until one of you piss each other off to no end, with a hard aspect, but even then...

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