Monday, August 15, 2011

MOON IN YOUR PARTNERS 8TH HOUSE



There is a fine line between love and hate the saying goes. With the moon in your partner's 8th house in synastry, it can end either way. To love deeper than you ever have (unconditionally) or to almost hate with all you have. These extremes are very scorpionic which rules this house of extremes. This will be undeniably a deep connection to the moon person. The moon person will feel that they need to go to the depths with the house person. The house person is aware of this power and the moon person is willing to plunge to the bottom in an effort to find the depth of love that we all seek "unconditional" which in turn both parties involved will be forced to see when the dust settles. This bond is very powerful and very difficult to let go even when most needed.

The moon is all that's emotional, it's our inner selves, what we need to nurture ourselves, it's our mother's nurturing, it's the love that we receive from others or how we love ourselves. 

The eighth house's natural ruler is Scorpio. It's all that is hidden within the recesses of the mind. It's is power, control, domination, manipulation, death, sex, taxes and other people's resources. 

It's the house of intense experience. In synastry when a person"s moon (emotions, inner self, core) are dropped into another person's 8th house, there is a mutual acknowledgement of a very intense experience in murky territory at hand. 

The moon person's moon suddenly becomes a Scorpio moon in a sense. 

Their emotional viewpoint, feelings and inner core are being dropped into a deep pool of intensity brought on by the relationship to the house person. 

There is something about the house person that draws the Scorpio 8th house stuff out of the moon. The moon person then finds himself digging deep, experiencing fear, jealousy, and perhaps an intense desire to control the house, person. 

This produces a strong emotional attachment to the house person. The depths of what these two will experience will be deep. 

This has the potential of being the closest lovers or the worst enemies. Either way it will be intense most often times, producing a type of love/hate relationship colored with dramatic over the top displays of drama. 

The moon person may feel like they are not in control of these deep feelings, and sexual compulsions they are overwhelming. It's intense and perhaps unconditional, which brings out fears in the Moon.

This relationship will bring out all sorts of emotional insecurities in the moon person. Strong sexual desires, urges, feelings and emotions that are near impossible to control are pulled out by the house person.

The moon person will be lured and almost bewitched into this 8th house with a powerful erotic drive for this house person. The house person feels adored and special by the Moon person.


This relationship has the ability to overcome many challenges others can not. The couple may experience many rebirths, and cycles as they dive deeper each and every time.  If the intense and compulsive undercurrents are handled with respect and maturity, then this relationship will bring out better in each other rather than the worst.

 If NOT handled with maturity, then the latter is possible, and you may end up in the flames, with no chance of return. 

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23 comments :

  1. My boyfriend has his moon in my 8th house. We feel like we were fated to meet each other. We can't live without each other but we cant stay together for very long either. I feel like he always needs to win and will do whatever it takes to teach me a lesson. My mother said. You may love each other but you can not be together and to just accept this. I know she is right. I am not sure if it is this aspect or the fact that he has uranus conjunct his sun, pluto squaring his sun in the 8th house. He also has sun square moon.

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  2. Karla,

    Thank you for reading. I am sympathetic to what you are going through. I can tell you about him always having to win as you put it. I think what you are saying is this is a on and off situation because he won't give in when it's dire that he does to save the relationship. If you find yourself constantly having to do what he wants and you always have to give in. That is a 8th house moon issue of synastry but I think the real culprit is his sun square pluto. People with this placement are formidable opponents and they can be a down right tyrant. You're boyfriend has lost his power in his life early on and is doing everything to gain some power back with his relationship with you. What he doesn't understand is that it's not real power that he is getting through neglecting you and your feelings. Please read my blog on sun square pluto. Then take what you understand and try to see if you can help him through. Chances are he needs to learn the hard and way. You need to take care of you! I hope this helps.

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  3. Well I had to leave a comment because this is so true for me. What we once had the love that was intense and passionate has reared it's ugly head and I had to move to indianapolis to get away from him. It's very sad to see how it can go one way or another.

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  4. I have to agree that the Sun Square Pluto in synastry is very powerful. The problem is Pluto is rarely about positive unless it is in a "friendly" aspect. I notice with the harsher one's (squares and oppositions) there intentions are questionable. Yet they yield so much power. This is dangerous for someone that is not plutonic to begin with. Meaning there not use to the energy here well enough to defend themselves and stand up to it. I have seen many times Pluto does have the upper hand. The reason is because Pluto is luring, Strong, and relentless. Since Pluto is sharp he can smell your weakness and often prays on it when the time is right. Pluto can wait a long time so there motives can seem pre-planned which they most often times are. In the case with the moon in the 8th house. It can have a similar feel to a scorpio moon or a pluto in aspect to moon in synastry. There will be deep psychological/emotional changes taking place which can be very difficult to handle. These intense energies are scary to most but it's the intensity that you will never forget and often not find again unless you are a pluto type attractor. I only experienced it twice. One with moon in my 8th house and the other with his pluto square my sun. I couldn't imagine both. Life changing is a weak statement...but applicable.

    Lora

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  5. Thanks so much for your post. Its sooooooooooo accurate! Its exactly what I’ve been through with … my crush. He was just & only a crush. I have my moon in his 8th house. And I did feel like I love him unconditionally. Like accepting every single part of him. like he’s not someone outstanding (my mars in aqua), he s really normal & ordinary. But for me, he’s very very special. Every little thing about him is so beautiful for me. I ve had this kind of ‘crush’ on him for like 3 years. It ended up nasty, after I found out who he really was ( blame that to my moon conjunct Neptune, venus quintile Neptune, I’ve been building a perfect image of him while he was not). But I learnt a lot from this. I actually started to learn about astrology during these 3 years. and that’s when I realized & learned about my Plutonic side ( I have sun in 8th house, moon & ascendant sextile pluto). I wouldn’t have known about any such thing like Pluto/Scorp/8th house if I hadn’t developed this crush on him.
    What you described in the post is exactly what I’ve been through in this crush. I like him so much that I feel like I could do anything for him. Obsession. I cant get him out of my head. Ive been going on and on like that during 3 years, without even seeing him nor talking to him. I remember crying myself out when he changed his major. Then we were not in the same class. I rarely saw him for the next 2 years.
    It’s all over now. I was transformed into a new person. for anything reminds me of this crush made me sick. I was forced to become a different person in order to survive. It was terrible, I felt like a part of me was dead with this crush. I called it a crush cause it was only one way. but it lasted 3 years & had a big & deep effect on me.
    And now I have some kind of special connection with a friend of mine. I feel an unconditional love from him. He has his moon in my 8th house. I don’t know why I feel that way, but I did feel like he likes me the way I like my crush. And it’s true. Like changing role. Now im the house person. its cool that I ve been the moon person. to understand all the terrible things the moon person ‘s been through. Ive told myself I would not hurt him the way my crush hurt me. it feels so good to have so much insights in this confusion of relationship. But im glad I came across your blog today.
    Thanks again. this revealed a hell lot about what I ve been struggling through 3 years :)

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    1. Dear Anonomous, thank you for your story and your confirmation of your experience with the moon in the 8th house reflecting some kind of unconditional love. But often more times than not ends painfully. Please continue feel free to update on your new crush experience. Look forward to hearing that it turns out wonderfully for you.

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  6. I have both Aquarius and Pisces in my 8th house. My best friend has Aquarius Moon in 23 degrees while my other friend has Pisces moon 3 degrees. Sometimes, I'm blessed for our friendship but sometimes I get weirded out by how much they want to know about me. Come to think about it, most of the Pisces Mooners I know have harassed me along the way, reminding me that they were still there. I'm still coping of their overwhelming tendencies. I mean, is there any way the 8th house peeps can escape?

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  7. This is a important topic! thank you for your post! I wanted to mention that they have some sort of deep interest in understanding you...However but you are in charge of the information you give. The thing with the 8th house is it is a scorpio house so any planet placed there from another will have scorpio undertones which put nicely is curiosity and in blatant terms intrusive, digging curiosity. What there motive is for knowing is what is important. However the bond is deep whether friend foe or lover.

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  8. This is a very heavy synastry placement with friends I have had some eerie feelings at times but in love I could not agree with you more! We loved so deeply...now...hate? understatement:0 but I am learning to take my lesson and move on:( by the way, He was the moon. Thank you for your post, very accurate in my experience.:(

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  9. Yes they are inquiring minds with this placement:)

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  10. what if a divorce situation arises ? ..I mean will there be chances for sorting things out ??!

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  11. Hi Anonymous, There is always a chance of marital make-up! There are many factors involved, such as what has transpired both within the marriage from both of you and of course what is going on astrologically. I do wish you the best:)

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  12. What would it mean if both his sun and moon are in my eight house?

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  13. Hi Thank you for visiting! Sun and Moon in the 8th- A Very deep, mysterious connection, that is sexually intense, and explorative. He would be very interested in your secrets, and finding them out. You will also dig deep into his psych wanting to know all those goes on inside his head. Jealousy is very possible so be careful not to play games. This is the house of Scorpio, where there is no superficial allowed. You will both impact each other deeply, and if followed through for a long enough time period, transformation is inevitable.

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  14. Wow!This is so accurate his moon is in my 8th house and the connection was intense!!!!! He managed to make me summarize my life in 15 minutes on our first date i layed out all of my secrets and i must add that im a Scorpio woman. i would never tell things that i hide to a crush especially not on the first date. This energy is so powerful i don't know what to do!

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  15. Hi Anonymous sorry for the delay! I was on a little getaway ahh:) So Yes, you confess! it's quite shocking! but it adds great depth to the relationship because there really are no secrets, or at least there hard to keep!This is a very powerful placement...

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  16. So his sun, moon, Saturn, and north node are all in my 8th!! We've only been dating for a couple of months, and it got serious very quickly! I think we stated to tilt into that not-so-good place and have backed away. I'm not sure where we are now. We're both mature in age, so I'm hoping we can work it out. I'm REALLY hoping...

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  17. Hi Sadiyya! Yes it's hot when it's hot and when's it's not? ouch! feelings run so deep, that it's hard to control, hopefully the damage wasn't too bad :O Usually with this one laying low, and cooling down, helps a lot. There is a possibility Saturn can be a culprit but we can't really know without a analysis of your charts. With that said; usually if there is a strong connection things can be repaired:)

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  18. So spot on! I can totally relate to anonymous except I was the house person. (He's a scorpio sun with a taurus moon in my 8th while I am a pisces moon with my virgo sun in his 8th house. It was just a crush, we never went out or kissed or anything (he always had a girlfriend). But the chemistry was just off the charts. I felt like I had known him right away and like we could have been the absolute best of friends and I told him that one time and he agreed. At times there would be so much feeling in the air it was uncomfortable but in a good way. Most of the tension was from not being able to act on all those feelings. It's been almost 3 years since we met and I haven't seen or talked to him in well over a year (him and his girlfriend recently had a baby). I still think about him every single day and still feel obsessive. I still feel like he's the only one I'll ever connect with in that way. He totally sparked my awakening into higher consciousness. I delved deeper into meditations and the astral/nonphysical realms than I ever had before, and for that I'll always be grateful for having met him. I would have never experienced such love and beauty and growth if I hadn't. *sigh*

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  19. Both people feel this placement it seems to be the Moon person that not only has insights into the house person but also intensely strong sexual urges for the house person to where they can hardly control themselves. It is the house person that is willing to go along with the Moon person's desires. This placement brings out extreme sexual urges but only if there is attraction otherwise it can bring about repulsion. This is the house of extremes it's either I want you or get away from me. If the house person is mutually attracted to the Moon person the Moon person has the ability to bring out this sexual desire to please the Moon out of the house person. It's a very racy placement. The Moon person may also try to use money as a means to control the house person, or in the least will help support the house person financially whether it's for control or not, there are benefits to the house person. The Moon person does have insights into the house persons fears and can use them to help them or hurt them. There is much to Astrology and all things need to be taken into consideration. However, when talking about the house of Pluto we can assess it will be intense and a very deep interaction.

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    1. My 6th house scorpio stellium falls in his 8th house. It includes sun, moon, mercury and pluto. He is my drums professor and is 25 years older - the attraction is mutual and soooo strong but there definitely is this taboo/secret 8th house thing. Nothing happened between us yet, but we look into each other's eyes and ~know~; we see our souls.. It's undeniable. I can't stop thinking about him and i don't know for how longer I will be able to keep my cool. to We also have lots of Sag/Jupiter/9th house good aspects that light everything up. Such as our suns in each other's 9th house and his moon conjunct my venus/jupiter in Sag. Hopefully this will solve some day. I know it will be beautiful.

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  20. OMG! I'm sure that I have this position with my ex bf :( and he's the moon and venus. But in this comment i just want to tell about moon. That's a "all or nothing" relationship. My sun and mars in his 8th house. His moon and venus in 8th house of mine.
    It's hard to let go of even that i know him just take the difficults for me.
    He has a new gf now, but when I saw he told to his new gf, I feel that he doesn't has much emotions with her. Not like he had been treat me. But I think maybe this level emotion good for him, because our relationship is too heavy to handle, and too much is not always good specialy when we were young.

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    1. Yes, these placements are better for more mature the difficulties are much stronger while young after you experience this depth and intensity we usually prefer calmer waters:) however more mature couples fair better with 8th house placements over the long run. Thank you for stopping by to share your thoughts ..:)

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