If you have a lot of Pisces or Neptune in hard aspect to any of your personal planets, Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, or Neptune placed in the 1st house or in the 7th house then You would do best to acquire some of the positive traits of your opposite sign Virgo. In our opposites we find the key to our weakness.
As Virgo can learn to let go of over-analyzing and seeking perfection, Neptune can learn to set boundaries and expectations of others, from Virgo and to learn to help.
A balance between two opposite signs is the answer to the greatest fulfillment. This can be used for all aspects, all stelliums and imbalanced charts ( many planets on one side of the chart). In the case of the Stellium in one sign or house, you can greatly benefit from learning the traits of the opposite sign or house and incorporating them to reach balance.
In the case of Strong Neptune individuals as listed above you would greatly from benefit by learning the trait of discernment from Virgo. Virgo likes to be needed and serve as well, but has expectations for the effort given and knows when it's a losing situation. Virgo has high expectations of others, Which Neptune can benefit greatly from learning. If you have Strong Neptune or Pisces in your chart, then it would be most beneficial to incorporate the traits of your opposite sign Virgo to find the ideal balance. Hard Neptune aspects or prominent Neptune people need to realize the tendency to be too accepting of bad behavior, idealization, and self-sacrifice.
So Neptuners/Pisceans need to learn Critical thinking and discernment. This is simply reasoning out whether a claim is true, partly true, sometimes true, or false. Logic is first and foremost to the critical thinker and to Virgo. It is important to understand a character, motivation, point of view and expression and not to gloss over the truth for the sake of keeping the peace or in wishful thinking. Wishful thinking is something we should always possess when it comes to our lives, but not the behavior of others.
As Virgo can learn to let go of over-analyzing and seeking perfection, Neptune can learn to set boundaries and expectations of others, from Virgo and to learn to help.
A balance between two opposite signs is the answer to the greatest fulfillment. This can be used for all aspects, all stelliums and imbalanced charts ( many planets on one side of the chart). In the case of the Stellium in one sign or house, you can greatly benefit from learning the traits of the opposite sign or house and incorporating them to reach balance.
In the case of Strong Neptune individuals as listed above you would greatly from benefit by learning the trait of discernment from Virgo. Virgo likes to be needed and serve as well, but has expectations for the effort given and knows when it's a losing situation. Virgo has high expectations of others, Which Neptune can benefit greatly from learning. If you have Strong Neptune or Pisces in your chart, then it would be most beneficial to incorporate the traits of your opposite sign Virgo to find the ideal balance. Hard Neptune aspects or prominent Neptune people need to realize the tendency to be too accepting of bad behavior, idealization, and self-sacrifice.
So Neptuners/Pisceans need to learn Critical thinking and discernment. This is simply reasoning out whether a claim is true, partly true, sometimes true, or false. Logic is first and foremost to the critical thinker and to Virgo. It is important to understand a character, motivation, point of view and expression and not to gloss over the truth for the sake of keeping the peace or in wishful thinking. Wishful thinking is something we should always possess when it comes to our lives, but not the behavior of others.
So how do you begin?
For Starters, Think for yourself, and do not give the benefit of the doubt so easily, match actions with words rather than blindly accepting the beliefs or words of other people. Always take what is said into consideration, but do not automatically accept things for the fact, or truth because that's what is said. Understand that in the world there exists people whom are very convincing and good at making things appear a particular way and even willing to tell you what it is you want to hear. Introduce doubt into your thinking, not to the point of paranoia, but to not immediately trust. Most importantly be open-minded and realistic enough to see whats real and do not sugar coat the truth, to protect yourself from the eventual harm anyway. Trust needs to be earned not freely given out. Don't be afraid to ask questions and don't be afraid of the truth. Avoidance or denial only let's the other person get away with their behavior at your expense. Hope for the best but do not assume it, prove it to yourself.
Have expectations of others, you are worthy of one that is worthy. You do not need to do or give everything to the relationship. Quality the people you let into your life and be realistic and honest with yourself. People with many problems need professional help, do not attempt to fix, or save anyone from a disaster, think what would Virgo do? Virgo would find them an institution that can help them and give them a ride and leave the fixing up to the qualified.
Be honest about the circumstances that surround an incident, you must be able to put yourself “in other people’s shoes” or to see their perspective. You will find that each person has his own weakness and strength in terms of judgment and observation. It could be that two viewpoints are contradictory, and you will have to rely on your judgment to determine what is valid, what is mistaken, or what is partially true but incomplete.
Do not make excuses if someone's behavior is making you feel bad, or feel obligated to tolerate bad behavior in hopes that they will love you more for it. Do not think that you can change someone into what you hope them to be. Yes, people can change but it's not likely to be because you are tolerating the bad, you will just get more of it.
Be aware of your own weaknesses. Astrology helps us understand to how we might be predisposed to behave or react, understand that you are easily persuaded or overly trusting or perhaps too idealistic and maybe even sacrificial.
These are lovely traits in a perfect world but the world we live in is far from perfect and too much giving and accepting will only lead to being taken advantage of and eventually to much pain and suffering. Especially if the hopes, trust, and care are given to the wrong person, and things turn out to be nothing of what you thought it was, in the end, leaving you feeling used, disillusioned.
Love yourself first, Neptune individuals tend to be far to trusting, giving, wishful and self-sacrificing. Because of their deep sensitivity, they often feel a obligation to the world and to others. This is a beautiful quality but to learn to set boundaries and say No, when it's needed is something very important for heavy Neptune or Pisces people. They tend to see the potential in others, or what they could be rather than what they really are. They can idealize people and trust them too easily. There are vampires that look for people just like this. The one they can suck all the life out of and use and abuse. Being conscious of those you let into your life with be a lifelong lesson. You can learn it quickly by realizing that your job is to be loved too. You deserve to be loved and adored and respected. It is not up to you to have to save everyone. Although you do change people through your acceptance, and kindness many people are truly just out for themselves and won't even realize what you have done, or appreciate it. Your compassion is best used on a large scale such as a charity close to heart. Where you can help those that need it and will likely appreciate it and save the pain of disappointment on a one by one basis. One man or one woman at a time is not the way to go. Learn to love yourself, and realize that you have in your life what you allow. Set boundaries and have expectations in order to get the love you deserve.
Virgo see's things logically and helps in a useful and practical way. Virgo does not sacrifice himself, or enable the user by doing everything for them. Rather he will teach the person to fish for themselves, and even drive them to the lake, but he will not fish for them. He will make them take responsibility for themselves, while Neptune although believes they are helping by laying down as a doormat or doing everything for them is truly only enabling them, and contrary to belief, although well intended is NOT helping. Teach and assist in helpful ways, do not do it for them, have expectations of all you let into your life.
For Starters, Think for yourself, and do not give the benefit of the doubt so easily, match actions with words rather than blindly accepting the beliefs or words of other people. Always take what is said into consideration, but do not automatically accept things for the fact, or truth because that's what is said. Understand that in the world there exists people whom are very convincing and good at making things appear a particular way and even willing to tell you what it is you want to hear. Introduce doubt into your thinking, not to the point of paranoia, but to not immediately trust. Most importantly be open-minded and realistic enough to see whats real and do not sugar coat the truth, to protect yourself from the eventual harm anyway. Trust needs to be earned not freely given out. Don't be afraid to ask questions and don't be afraid of the truth. Avoidance or denial only let's the other person get away with their behavior at your expense. Hope for the best but do not assume it, prove it to yourself.
Have expectations of others, you are worthy of one that is worthy. You do not need to do or give everything to the relationship. Quality the people you let into your life and be realistic and honest with yourself. People with many problems need professional help, do not attempt to fix, or save anyone from a disaster, think what would Virgo do? Virgo would find them an institution that can help them and give them a ride and leave the fixing up to the qualified.
Be honest about the circumstances that surround an incident, you must be able to put yourself “in other people’s shoes” or to see their perspective. You will find that each person has his own weakness and strength in terms of judgment and observation. It could be that two viewpoints are contradictory, and you will have to rely on your judgment to determine what is valid, what is mistaken, or what is partially true but incomplete.
Do not make excuses if someone's behavior is making you feel bad, or feel obligated to tolerate bad behavior in hopes that they will love you more for it. Do not think that you can change someone into what you hope them to be. Yes, people can change but it's not likely to be because you are tolerating the bad, you will just get more of it.
Be aware of your own weaknesses. Astrology helps us understand to how we might be predisposed to behave or react, understand that you are easily persuaded or overly trusting or perhaps too idealistic and maybe even sacrificial.
These are lovely traits in a perfect world but the world we live in is far from perfect and too much giving and accepting will only lead to being taken advantage of and eventually to much pain and suffering. Especially if the hopes, trust, and care are given to the wrong person, and things turn out to be nothing of what you thought it was, in the end, leaving you feeling used, disillusioned.
Love yourself first, Neptune individuals tend to be far to trusting, giving, wishful and self-sacrificing. Because of their deep sensitivity, they often feel a obligation to the world and to others. This is a beautiful quality but to learn to set boundaries and say No, when it's needed is something very important for heavy Neptune or Pisces people. They tend to see the potential in others, or what they could be rather than what they really are. They can idealize people and trust them too easily. There are vampires that look for people just like this. The one they can suck all the life out of and use and abuse. Being conscious of those you let into your life with be a lifelong lesson. You can learn it quickly by realizing that your job is to be loved too. You deserve to be loved and adored and respected. It is not up to you to have to save everyone. Although you do change people through your acceptance, and kindness many people are truly just out for themselves and won't even realize what you have done, or appreciate it. Your compassion is best used on a large scale such as a charity close to heart. Where you can help those that need it and will likely appreciate it and save the pain of disappointment on a one by one basis. One man or one woman at a time is not the way to go. Learn to love yourself, and realize that you have in your life what you allow. Set boundaries and have expectations in order to get the love you deserve.
Virgo see's things logically and helps in a useful and practical way. Virgo does not sacrifice himself, or enable the user by doing everything for them. Rather he will teach the person to fish for themselves, and even drive them to the lake, but he will not fish for them. He will make them take responsibility for themselves, while Neptune although believes they are helping by laying down as a doormat or doing everything for them is truly only enabling them, and contrary to belief, although well intended is NOT helping. Teach and assist in helpful ways, do not do it for them, have expectations of all you let into your life.
