LILITH SYNASTRY

Lilith has quite the reputation of being none other than a spiteful, demanding, hyper sexual, vindictive demoness that drives men insane, and kills babies and that's just the start- or the short version, for those of you who are already familiar with her story. If you do not then click here (for one of the many interpretations).

(I did a new podcast on a new view of the old demon Lilith in synastry you can click here to listen.) Although the post below follows tradition but what I have seen differs and varies so to hear my version listen to the podcast either before or after reading the below.

When reading about Lilith it's nearly impossible to find the positive, yet modern day astrologers focus on her independent nature in a attempt to turn her story more positive, which is a good thing. We don't need anymore negative or bad planets or the like, messing our lives up anymore.  So wit that said, applying her to modern day in Astrology we must take all things into consideration objectively. To be objective we need to consider the sources in which her stories come, and of course one's beliefs I guess. 

Although her story varies there is a "common theme", most agree collaborate with, and it's not very good at all. So, twisting to the positive we must keep in mind that these texts are "very old"  and in that time, people were tough critics and times change, whereas today we would say, having multiple sex partners and women wanting to dominate is pretty common and even mainstream and although considered edgy,  it's all too common and NOT considered wrong or evil, like it was with her. 

There is the possibility that things may have been exaggerated it WAS a much more rigid time. People are much more accepting and open minded today. To think "Witches", or Astrologers, and anyone that "Did things differently" or " Did not adhere to mainstream beliefs" suffered major consequences and were pinned as being wicked or  evil and even killed.

Times were tough, and people pretty brutal in their opinions, and judgments were hard. Back then if you had an affair, you could be set fire, be stoned or cast out, never to step foot back again, banned to wear the " Scarlet Letter". Yes, we want to live happy and fruitful lives, and to do what is healthy for us. But given that we are learning to be loving and to respect all people regardless of their chosen lifestyle, perhaps Lilith wasn't so evil, perhaps the "demons" she ran off to have sex with were really just people of another tribe, that looked different than everyone else, mistaken for demons? staying with the positive.

No one knows for certain, but we do know the truth does get stretched from time to time or twisted. If you were a woman that did not want to submit, back in that time, you would have been banished too. So she is now the model for women's equal rights. 

Lilith, represents the part of us that want's to be free to live our wild sexual lives as we wish, to break free of any inhibitions and to be authentic to ourselves, and to do what we please, even in the extreme. 

Perhaps, the only problem with Lilith was that she was born, created in the wrong era, and because of this she was the rebel, and simply made out to be much worse than she actually was.

One thing we can decipher for certain is that Lilith was not the goody girl next door. As far as where the myth originated according to Ariela Pelaia  in her article; Where does the legend of Lilith come from she states 

Many believe she was inspired by Sumerian myths about female vampires called “Lillu” or Mesopotamian myths about succubae (female night demons) called “lilin.” 

Also, that Lilith was mentioned four times in the Babylonian Talmud, but it was not until the Alphabet of Ben Sira (c. 800s to 900s) that the character of Lilith is associated with the first version of Creation.

In this medieval text, Ben Sira names Lilith as Adam’s first wife and presents a full account of her story." 

If you haven't read up on her here's an interesting read portraying her as the serpent in the bible The case for Lilith. as you will see, there are quite a few different myths.

No one is really all that certain as to which Myth is the most accurate so we can only work with it seems most probably in the least that we can bet to see our rebellious or wild side, in the area of our chart Lilith resides. To what degree is to be determined by the sign, house and aspects to her from personal planets.

I have had much personal and professional experience with Lilith, as I mentioned. 

To put her in perspective Lilith is similar to a combination of Pluto and Uranus energy. A combination of the darker qualities of Pluto, Demanding, Unruly, Strong Sexual needs and desires, unique different or bizarre interest in sex, nymphomaniac, strong independent streak, a heart breaker.
However, there are two sides to every aspect, placement, planet, asteroid of what not. Much of this truly depends on how well, the individual responds to the energy.

The negative side, can be very negative. Yet the positive expression is very positive.  I have seen in synastry between two people, with Lilith aspects both the postive and the negative play out. This is why it's so difficult to write about aspects becasue it truly is dependant on the individual charts of each person. 

Lilith in synastry generally speaking produces a very powerful seductive lure between the two but there can also an erratic or rebellious quality to it. Most commonly seen when the two are not evolved in their Lilith, they experience a battle of wills or power struggles.

Although, this adds to the passion it is also pulling at the very seat of your souls and can eventually bring out deep resentments. Though ultimately, the highly sexually charged dynamics in the relationship will open your eyes to the ramifications of issues of control, selfishness, or lack of self control, or a need to have your way and their toxicity to any relationship.  

It is also possible in it's more aggressive energy or form to draw out your own sexual or emotional demons. Much like Pluto, Lilith has the sexual power to draw out our compulsions which if not kept in check can drive us batty, crazy, or as the tale goes insane, in the least a visit to the therapist. Lilith was known to drive men insane. 

Strong Lilith relationships( Hard Aspects with Lilith) often turn obsessive in a rather rapid, yet desirous way. Things can move fast, all things and you feel as if you just can't turn away. Very much like the lure to eat of the "luscious forbidden fruit" curiosity kills. Lilith is often a temptation, that if taken on will ultimately open our eyes to our darker nature. 

In many of my clients relationships, I have seen it play out obsessively, intensely and always highly sexually charged relationships. In most of the cases, they never made it for the long haul a couple of years tops.  

Perhaps because Lilith can never really be had, or satisfied. It's important to note that most of these couples were immature, still young and maturity makes all the difference in how one handles their need for rebellion, pushing limits, game playing and recklessness,  As with all difficult aspects they tend to get better or more controlled over time, they are managed much better with age. So we always need to take that into consideration as well.

These scandalous qualities or desire for many sex partners can be seen in Men as well with strong Lilith. I have observed her in many of the charts of men. For men Lilith can play out that they are attracted to Lilith types, women with large sexual appetites or darker more taboo sex, perhaps filth is a turn on. 

In the Lilith myth, she was also known for infiltrating men's dreams and ultimately driving them insane. In other words, she draws out our jealousies, and compulsive natures, opening our eyes much like Pluto does through taking away, and drawing out our deepest feelings. Lilith does it through her independent, unruly( Uranus) and Pluto's Lair, strong sexual compulsions of a taboo nature or sex served raw and dirty.

When it comes to synastry Lilith in aspect to a partners personal planet such as the Sun. The Lilith person will pull out these sexual compulsions from the Sun person and the Sun person is likely to become obsessed with capturing the Lilith person. 

One or the may unintentionally or intentionally bring out of their partner a unsettling feeling this is usually a result of attaching too much importance on sex, lust and a need to control or rebel against each other.

The men that have Lilith strongly in their chart, primarily in the hard aspects and often located in the 1st house are heavily Lilith and may be attracted to prostitutes or women that are dirty we see much of the sexual scandal going on with men and their homier wives and their dirty girl on the side.

Since Lilith was responsible for bringing disease, it may be as a result of these unusualy sexual appetites, and interest in prostitutes or sex addict behavior. I am not associating sex with a disease but the truth is if you are not careful, it's a real consequence. She is associated with dirty, sex in dirty places, with multiple partners and even mysophilia which makes sense why she is also the bringer of disease in the negative. 

For the record there ARE many other not so nice", asteroids and planets outside of Pluto and Lilith that have darker twists one example is asteroid Nessus, which is related to "abuse" which we all have in our charts as well. We all have the dark asteroids or dark sides of the planets in our charts but most of us choose consciously not to act it out. At least those that are conscious of the energy and choose otherwise. Therefore, it's not fair to say everyone with these aspects will behave like this, or act out these negatives traits, because it's simply not true. We all have free will and part of our evolution is to rise above our carnal desires and learn to respect ourselves and others. But the truth is some don't.

To find out which side of Lilith you are dealing with, you may want to take age into consideration, but really if you see any of the negative behaviors acting out, and if you are not happy about it, then you have a choice.  Lilith is not for the faint of heart, she is much like the lifting of a veil opening our eyes to our to our darker, more ravenous, lustful, controlling, dominating and rebellious natures.

Positively used, she can help us fight for a good cause, to stand up for our rights, and to free us from fears of any sexual inhibitions, and even empower us.

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Also listen to the New View of a Old Demon Lilith in Synastry audio, which put's Lilith in perspective.