There is a fine line between love and hate the saying goes. With the moon in your partner's 8th house in synastry, it can end either way. To love deeper than you ever have (unconditionally) or to almost hate with all you have. These extremes are very scorpionic which rules this house of extremes. This will be undeniably a deep connection to the moon person. The moon person will feel that they need to go to the depths with the house person. The house person is aware of this power and the moon person is willing to plunge to the bottom in an effort to find the depth of love that we all seek "unconditional" which in turn both parties involved will be forced to see when the dust settles. This bond is very powerful and very difficult to let go even when most needed.
The moon is all that's emotional, it's our inner selves, what we need to nurture ourselves, it's our mother's nurturing, it's the love that we receive from others or how we love ourselves.
The eighth house's natural ruler is Scorpio. It's all that is hidden within the recesses of the mind. It's is power, control, domination, manipulation, death, sex, taxes and other people's resources.
It's the house of intense experience. In synastry when a person"s moon (emotions, inner self, core) are dropped into another person's 8th house, there is a mutual acknowledgement of a very intense experience in murky territory at hand.
The moon person's moon suddenly becomes a Scorpio moon in a sense.
Their emotional viewpoint, feelings and inner core are being dropped into a deep pool of intensity brought on by the relationship to the house person.
There is something about the house person that draws the Scorpio 8th house stuff out of the moon. The moon person then finds himself digging deep, experiencing fear, jealousy, and perhaps an intense desire to control the house, person.
This produces a strong emotional attachment to the house person. The depths of what these two will experience will be deep.
This has the potential of being the closest lovers or the worst enemies. Either way it will be intense most often times, producing a type of love/hate relationship colored with dramatic over the top displays of drama.
The moon person may feel like they are not in control of these deep feelings, and sexual compulsions they are overwhelming. It's intense and perhaps unconditional, which brings out fears in the Moon.
This relationship will bring out all sorts of emotional insecurities in the moon person. Strong sexual desires, urges, feelings and emotions that are near impossible to control are pulled out by the house person.
The moon person will be lured and almost bewitched into this 8th house with a powerful erotic drive for this house person. The house person feels adored and special by the Moon person.
This relationship has the ability to overcome many challenges others can not. The couple may experience many rebirths, and cycles as they dive deeper each and every time. If the intense and compulsive undercurrents are handled with respect and maturity, then this relationship will bring out better in each other rather than the worst.
If NOT handled with maturity, then the latter is possible, and you may end up in the flames, with no chance of return.
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My boyfriend has his moon in my 8th house. We feel like we were fated to meet each other. We can't live without each other but we cant stay together for very long either. I feel like he always needs to win and will do whatever it takes to teach me a lesson. My mother said. You may love each other but you can not be together and to just accept this. I know she is right. I am not sure if it is this aspect or the fact that he has uranus conjunct his sun, pluto squaring his sun in the 8th house. He also has sun square moon.
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ReplyDeleteThank you for reading. I am sympathetic to what you are going through. I can tell you about him always having to win as you put it. I think what you are saying is this is a on and off situation because he won't give in when it's dire that he does to save the relationship. If you find yourself constantly having to do what he wants and you always have to give in. That is a 8th house moon issue of synastry but I think the real culprit is his sun square pluto. People with this placement are formidable opponents and they can be a down right tyrant. You're boyfriend has lost his power in his life early on and is doing everything to gain some power back with his relationship with you. What he doesn't understand is that it's not real power that he is getting through neglecting you and your feelings. Please read my blog on sun square pluto. Then take what you understand and try to see if you can help him through. Chances are he needs to learn the hard and way. You need to take care of you! I hope this helps.
Well I had to leave a comment because this is so true for me. What we once had the love that was intense and passionate has reared it's ugly head and I had to move to indianapolis to get away from him. It's very sad to see how it can go one way or another.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for your post. Its sooooooooooo accurate! Its exactly what I’ve been through with … my crush. He was just & only a crush. I have my moon in his 8th house. And I did feel like I love him unconditionally. Like accepting every single part of him. like he’s not someone outstanding (my mars in aqua), he s really normal & ordinary. But for me, he’s very very special. Every little thing about him is so beautiful for me. I ve had this kind of ‘crush’ on him for like 3 years. It ended up nasty, after I found out who he really was ( blame that to my moon conjunct Neptune, venus quintile Neptune, I’ve been building a perfect image of him while he was not). But I learnt a lot from this. I actually started to learn about astrology during these 3 years. and that’s when I realized & learned about my Plutonic side ( I have sun in 8th house, moon & ascendant sextile pluto). I wouldn’t have known about any such thing like Pluto/Scorp/8th house if I hadn’t developed this crush on him.
ReplyDeleteWhat you described in the post is exactly what I’ve been through in this crush. I like him so much that I feel like I could do anything for him. Obsession. I cant get him out of my head. Ive been going on and on like that during 3 years, without even seeing him nor talking to him. I remember crying myself out when he changed his major. Then we were not in the same class. I rarely saw him for the next 2 years.
It’s all over now. I was transformed into a new person. for anything reminds me of this crush made me sick. I was forced to become a different person in order to survive. It was terrible, I felt like a part of me was dead with this crush. I called it a crush cause it was only one way. but it lasted 3 years & had a big & deep effect on me.
And now I have some kind of special connection with a friend of mine. I feel an unconditional love from him. He has his moon in my 8th house. I don’t know why I feel that way, but I did feel like he likes me the way I like my crush. And it’s true. Like changing role. Now im the house person. its cool that I ve been the moon person. to understand all the terrible things the moon person ‘s been through. Ive told myself I would not hurt him the way my crush hurt me. it feels so good to have so much insights in this confusion of relationship. But im glad I came across your blog today.
Thanks again. this revealed a hell lot about what I ve been struggling through 3 years :)
Dear Anonomous, thank you for your story and your confirmation of your experience with the moon in the 8th house reflecting some kind of unconditional love. But often more times than not ends painfully. Please continue feel free to update on your new crush experience. Look forward to hearing that it turns out wonderfully for you.
DeleteI experienced the same.... I loved intensely and blindly with a man (I dont know his astrology chart since he never wanted to tell me his real birth time) but the first time, I experienced the most intense and wild feeling towards him, and I hated myself for being so ugly, I cried and I kept my possession to him, until I decided to put a stop. Since I want to nurture, I want to be positive, I did not want to jealous, I did not want to be an ugly bitch who I even hated myself more. Things happens exactly like you said... Dead, It stroked my heart so hard, that I felt I never loved a person madly like that... When I was so broken that I could not love anyone, I start to hate marriage, this man comes into my life with his moon (in Leo, 12 house) came into my 8th house.... I suddenly was healed by him. He loved me first and he had the same situation like me... It is like a reforming... Even I do not love him yet, honestly, but I feel his deep emotion towards me is a true love which connected me so specially... Sometimes I think of flirting another man, and I start to see the truth behind it which I never realized before... The sincerity of him changed me, taught me to understand things better under the surface, I just know who really treats me well and who only used me... I saw the real face of my ex crush, the love which is full of illusion. I started to have courages to cut it down.
DeleteI feel appreciated of him, I start to stand up myself stronger, and just like the 8th house indication: Reborn.
Funnily, His
Thank you for sharing your experience! You are helping others by doing so.
DeleteRelationships can be beautiful or painful and we learn as we go.
But karma is real, we get back what we give always try to forgive and send love it will come back to you. Those that have pained you will have it come back to them too, although not always right away as Devine timing is a work but everything willl eventually come back to all. We always learn from every experience good or bad.
Again thank you for sharing!
Much love and peace sent your way❤️
I have both Aquarius and Pisces in my 8th house. My best friend has Aquarius Moon in 23 degrees while my other friend has Pisces moon 3 degrees. Sometimes, I'm blessed for our friendship but sometimes I get weirded out by how much they want to know about me. Come to think about it, most of the Pisces Mooners I know have harassed me along the way, reminding me that they were still there. I'm still coping of their overwhelming tendencies. I mean, is there any way the 8th house peeps can escape?
ReplyDeleteHaha! Yes it's true they can get very interested in knowing all, and will in some cases be hard to get rid of which can be bothersome if your not interested or comfortable with them. I forgot to add that into the post. Thank you for reminding me:)
DeleteThis is a important topic! thank you for your post! I wanted to mention that they have some sort of deep interest in understanding you...However but you are in charge of the information you give. The thing with the 8th house is it is a scorpio house so any planet placed there from another will have scorpio undertones which put nicely is curiosity and in blatant terms intrusive, digging curiosity. What there motive is for knowing is what is important. However the bond is deep whether friend foe or lover.
ReplyDeleteVery true! And right on!
DeleteThis is a very heavy synastry placement with friends I have had some eerie feelings at times but in love I could not agree with you more! We loved so deeply...now...hate? understatement:0 but I am learning to take my lesson and move on:( by the way, He was the moon. Thank you for your post, very accurate in my experience.:(
ReplyDeleteThank you love for sharing❤️
DeleteYes they are inquiring minds with this placement:)
ReplyDeletewhat if a divorce situation arises ? ..I mean will there be chances for sorting things out ??!
ReplyDeleteHi Anonymous, There is always a chance of marital make-up! There are many factors involved, such as what has transpired both within the marriage from both of you and of course what is going on astrologically. I do wish you the best:)
ReplyDeleteWhat would it mean if both his sun and moon are in my eight house?
ReplyDeleteHi Thank you for visiting! Sun and Moon in the 8th- A Very deep, mysterious connection, that is sexually intense, and explorative. He would be very interested in your secrets, and finding them out. You will also dig deep into his psych wanting to know all those goes on inside his head. Jealousy is very possible so be careful not to play games. This is the house of Scorpio, where there is no superficial allowed. You will both impact each other deeply, and if followed through for a long enough time period, transformation is inevitable.
ReplyDeleteZahara Starz! So glad I found your page on this topic. Just got into an intense sexual relations with an Taurus Sun man with his Aquarian Moon in my 8th house. Do you think he will be able to stay detached in this situation? He not used to "feeling" on this level which makes me feel the more vulnerable in this dynamic.
DeleteWow!This is so accurate his moon is in my 8th house and the connection was intense!!!!! He managed to make me summarize my life in 15 minutes on our first date i layed out all of my secrets and i must add that im a Scorpio woman. i would never tell things that i hide to a crush especially not on the first date. This energy is so powerful i don't know what to do!
ReplyDeleteHi Anonymous sorry for the delay! I was on a little getaway ahh:) So Yes, you confess! it's quite shocking! but it adds great depth to the relationship because there really are no secrets, or at least there hard to keep!This is a very powerful placement...
ReplyDeleteSo his sun, moon, Saturn, and north node are all in my 8th!! We've only been dating for a couple of months, and it got serious very quickly! I think we stated to tilt into that not-so-good place and have backed away. I'm not sure where we are now. We're both mature in age, so I'm hoping we can work it out. I'm REALLY hoping...
ReplyDeleteHi Sadiyya! Yes it's hot when it's hot and when's it's not? ouch! feelings run so deep, that it's hard to control, hopefully the damage wasn't too bad :O Usually with this one laying low, and cooling down, helps a lot. There is a possibility Saturn can be a culprit but we can't really know without a analysis of your charts. With that said; usually if there is a strong connection things can be repaired:)
ReplyDeleteSo spot on! I can totally relate to anonymous except I was the house person. (He's a scorpio sun with a taurus moon in my 8th while I am a pisces moon with my virgo sun in his 8th house. It was just a crush, we never went out or kissed or anything (he always had a girlfriend). But the chemistry was just off the charts. I felt like I had known him right away and like we could have been the absolute best of friends and I told him that one time and he agreed. At times there would be so much feeling in the air it was uncomfortable but in a good way. Most of the tension was from not being able to act on all those feelings. It's been almost 3 years since we met and I haven't seen or talked to him in well over a year (him and his girlfriend recently had a baby). I still think about him every single day and still feel obsessive. I still feel like he's the only one I'll ever connect with in that way. He totally sparked my awakening into higher consciousness. I delved deeper into meditations and the astral/nonphysical realms than I ever had before, and for that I'll always be grateful for having met him. I would have never experienced such love and beauty and growth if I hadn't. *sigh*
ReplyDeleteBoth people feel this placement it seems to be the Moon person that not only has insights into the house person but also intensely strong sexual urges for the house person to where they can hardly control themselves. It is the house person that is willing to go along with the Moon person's desires. This placement brings out extreme sexual urges but only if there is attraction otherwise it can bring about repulsion. This is the house of extremes it's either I want you or get away from me. If the house person is mutually attracted to the Moon person the Moon person has the ability to bring out this sexual desire to please the Moon out of the house person. It's a very racy placement. The Moon person may also try to use money as a means to control the house person, or in the least will help support the house person financially whether it's for control or not, there are benefits to the house person. The Moon person does have insights into the house persons fears and can use them to help them or hurt them. There is much to Astrology and all things need to be taken into consideration. However, when talking about the house of Pluto we can assess it will be intense and a very deep interaction.
ReplyDeleteMy 6th house scorpio stellium falls in his 8th house. It includes sun, moon, mercury and pluto. He is my drums professor and is 25 years older - the attraction is mutual and soooo strong but there definitely is this taboo/secret 8th house thing. Nothing happened between us yet, but we look into each other's eyes and ~know~; we see our souls.. It's undeniable. I can't stop thinking about him and i don't know for how longer I will be able to keep my cool. to We also have lots of Sag/Jupiter/9th house good aspects that light everything up. Such as our suns in each other's 9th house and his moon conjunct my venus/jupiter in Sag. Hopefully this will solve some day. I know it will be beautiful.
DeleteOMG! I'm sure that I have this position with my ex bf :( and he's the moon and venus. But in this comment i just want to tell about moon. That's a "all or nothing" relationship. My sun and mars in his 8th house. His moon and venus in 8th house of mine.
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to let go of even that i know him just take the difficults for me.
He has a new gf now, but when I saw he told to his new gf, I feel that he doesn't has much emotions with her. Not like he had been treat me. But I think maybe this level emotion good for him, because our relationship is too heavy to handle, and too much is not always good specialy when we were young.
Yes, these placements are better for more mature the difficulties are much stronger while young after you experience this depth and intensity we usually prefer calmer waters:) however more mature couples fair better with 8th house placements over the long run. Thank you for stopping by to share your thoughts ..:)
DeleteIve been dating someone for the past couple months....his moon is in my 8th house. My sun, mercury, venus and jupiter is in his 8th house. his moon conjuncts my mars. my moon trines his mars and my moon conjuncts his pluto. our plutos conjunct eachother anddd I have scorpio moon....I feel like this relationship has a very plutonic theme....Its been real nice so far...but I feel like both of us are feeling that scorpio energy and spending a few days from eachother as if were afraid to express our emotions...i want to tell him that I really care for him and ask him how he feels about me....he doesnt tell me how he feels about me he just tells me about our future plans together and how when he moves next month there will be more space for me to leave some things in his house so i can stay over at times and he tells people im his girlfriend even though he never asked me to be...but I role with that and we spend a good amount of time together....me being virgo scorpio moon tend to obsess and worry regardless with my scorpio moon conjunct my scorpio pluto...sigh im just gonna take things slowly and be emotionally mature, that may be the only way to keep this relationship
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My partners moon is in my eighth house. His moon is in pisces and honestly I can definitely feel the intensity between the both of us. I was scrolling to read some of the examples with other people and I was hoping to find a couple that are in a long term successful relationship with this placement. We've only known each other for a month and we just hit it off right away. He asked me yesterday dec 17/17 to be in a permanent relationship with him and I accepted. I'm not sure how this is going to go but I truly appreciate the way he feels super deeply. It seems super genuine and me being the 8th house I do control what I tell him. I feel like it is better to leave mystery then to blurt it all out. This way i feel we can grow and trust each other. So far so good and i'm hoping our outcome is postive more then negative. I definitely felt jealous when I saw him and the way his brothers girlfriend interact and that's not usually like me I know I can be manipulative at times in general but he honestly expresses himself really well and communication levels are good. I know I definitely do not want to hate him so i'm hoping for the best.
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ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend and I has the same placement. My moon in his 8th house and his Moon in my 8th house. I feel the same, like I can't live without him, like a deep love. And we are always passing for similar situations when we can understand each other.
but at the same time it is a difficult love, first, because we are from different cultures, different countries, he has a personality very different from mine. My moon is in Cancer and his moon is in Aquarius. ITTT'S A LOT! lol. <3
does this count if its his moon in cancer opposite my 8th house in capricorn, or do they have to be conjunct? (1 degree orb)
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriends moon is in my 8th house but in our overall synastry there are a lot of intense and complimentary aspects and placements. I personally love this aspect because when we started dating he really pointed out a lot of my fears and insecurities and things I still had to let go of in myself. We've been together for almost 3 years now and there is a constant but positive death and rebirth process, as we get to know each other better we get to know ourselves better by showing the other person what there is that they can still let go of and grow from. It hasn't been easy and as time goes on it gets better but it has to come from both sides. We have been at that place where he tried to control me by threathing to end our relationship because he felt that would make me do whatever he wanted but when I stood strong in my own power I realised that I don't need to be with him, rather I want to be with him but if he's not willing to grow on his own then we can't be together and because I was not afraid to walk away he stopped trying to control me and actually looked inside himself to understand why he felt all those controlling emotions.
ReplyDeleteI know a lot of different things come into play with this placement in synastry but if you're willing and brave enough to look at yourself naked, this placement can be so fulfilling because sometimes we need other people to see who we are and with someone's moon in your 8th house it's one of the most revealing and in-depth ways to get to know your own fears.
My husband has his moon in my 8th house. My moon also conjunts his mars. We both have Venus conjunct Pluto natally and in synastry. 2 very scorponic people in other parts of our charts.
ReplyDeleteWe've been together for 16 years, we are now 33 and 35. It's definetly not for the faint of heart. The pain we have put each other through, the pain we've experienced from outside forces. It's really indescribable. If it wasn't for our children I don't think we would still be together but at the same time maybe we would as the pull is very strong.
We've been through 2 near divorce crisis's and I don't know how we got through them. There was no hope but somehow we did. We are currently going through the 3rd now and I believe it could finally be it.
I'd advise anyone who has this in synastry to be wary. If I knew what I know now I would of probably left at the cross road. There seems to be a choice before you are in too deep. It's a moment of a big dramatic decision and it's very intoxicating as the intensity is so strong. Once that decision was made it felt like we were strapped into the rollercoaster seat for 10 rounds, no hopping off at 5.
But I do love him, with all my heart. I spend alot of time doubting his care towards me but hes with me after 16 years so he must. I just don't think it's healthy once the lessons are learned and boy do you learn some lessons.