SATURN SQUARE OR OPPOSITE VENUS

SATURN SQUARE, OR OPPOSITE VENUS IN THE BIRTH CHART
(Please note this description is not for all there are many dimensions to one aspect and other aspects along with the sign Venus is in will depict more specifically.) No one aspect can be accurate for everyone other aspects will alter the interpretation this is for the aspect in itself with no other aspects being made. Some of the interpretation relates stronger to the opposition than the square but both will find they relate to much of the post but certainly not all.

Saturn is restrictions, blockages, resistance, fear, hurdles, tests, trials, hard work, seriousness, maturity, conservatism, criticalness, oversensitivity, and shrewd. Positively: refinement, convention, loyalty, commitment, and dedication. 

Venus is money, pleasure, grace, diplomacy, beauty, art, glamor, and women. If a person has a hard aspect with Saturn to Venus they will often possess a great fear of rejection, be overly serious, and overly sensitive to what they feel is criticism or rejection and often do not put in the effort it requires to obtain all these things.

They often experience a cooling of feelings that can come across as inconsistent or even uncaring and is the result of their relationship problems. Some have a very pessimistic perception and therefore even when they are loved they just don't see it. There is a great deal of pride and fear of letting down their guard in order to allow love in. Are you blocked from love? or are you unconsciously blocking love? It's important to be self-aware of how one with this aspect is contributing to the struggles they experience in love. They need to develop a true self-esteem, and self-love first before they will be able to find true love. 

In order to find love, one must give in love what they expect of their lovers. Love is two-sided, and love is something that is earned by both people involved. By rejecting, or pushing away you are not contributing to love but rather destroying it and perpetuating this same behavior from the one they might like or love. 

Being more aggressive and less fearful would heavily benefit them. Understanding that we all will face rejection in our lives, it's just a part of life, but if you never take a risk many opportunities will pass you by and you can find yourself alone in the later years. 

Self-realization is first to understand how their fear of rejection is a self-fulfilling prophecy and that instead of rejecting first, and being too sensitive to any cues of rejection (which more often than not are not real) or one is projecting what they assume will happen. Or it's likely a result of oversensitivity. Being cold, inconsiderate or inconsistent will not develop love but rather animosity and rejection. OR those that they do attract will be all the wrong types that suffer insecurity issues themselves or that treat them poorly. 

This aspect comes up quite a bit in my work for it's one of the more difficult ones in areas of love and relationships, but also the belief system surrounding self-worth and money, which is a large part of my clientele. 

Saturn is hard work, and individuals with this aspect were often burdened with heavy or grown-up responsibility early on. As a result, they grew up fast and did not have much time for pleasure and play which leads them to difficulty relaxing and having fun. They can be overly serious, stiff, rigid or experience great difficulty in letting go and having fun. They take everything very seriously.


Venus also rules our values and money. They can sometimes equate accomplishment or money with love and they can view love as a business. Some can be very tight-fisted with money which therefore perpetuates their lack. Some prefer to talk about their financial accomplishments as a means to attract the opposite sex but then complain later of feeling used or find they are attracting exactly what they are projecting, those that want their money.

They don't get carried away with emotions they want the ideal partner but often fear it and end up self-sabotaging themselves. This is why many individuals with this aspect can end up settling for someone less than what they want which only enhances their insecurity when they constantly complain about their partners because they are not right for them or continuously break up only to get back together later when they should actually just walk away.

The lack of self-esteem, true self-esteem that is not based on what they own, have or can accomplish is the source of many of their problems in love. Many complain of terrible love lives but need to recognize or learn to choose wiser and if the relationship is not right or healthy is someway they need to learn to let go and move on and to stop going back.  

They can be uptight, stiff or serious and are often plagued with deep insecurities and fear of rejection, "reject or be rejected" is often their motto. They can also find anything that is unconventional nonsense or be closed minded with strong perceptions of right and wrong.


A person with Saturn in hard aspect to Venus will find challenges and blockages in the areas of personal, relationships, social graces and love relationships, along with fears surrounding the lack of money and this is a result of not giving what they want to receive in relationships of all types.

In areas of finance, the person can find many blockages around financial abundance and this is if the person becomes too fearful of not having enough and in turn, becomes selfish or tight-fisted with money. It is in their fear of lack that they constantly create situations of lack.

It would benefit one with any hard aspect between Venus and Saturn to learn to be more generous of heart and soul and to be more consciously aware of others feelings and not so focused on their own. This is for a multitude of reasons but by being generous they break the karmic implications of lack and create more abundance. Often people, especially with the opposition, can be to focused on material accomplishment that they can end up trying to scheme their way to try to create more wealth. This too will backfire, because Saturn is the planet of Karma and what we do will come back to us. The best advice is "do unto others what you want to be done to you." Not only will the schemes eventually backfire, but by scheming they will also attract situations in which others try to scheme them. Breaking the Karma of lack of love and money can only be broken through the generosity of love and money. 

Emotionally, Some with this aspect can end up with severe sensitivity to criticism and can overly defensive. They can also, as a result, become very critical of others in their defense. They can be jealous of others success, and become boastful of their own successes, or financial gains in an effort to feel worthy or good enough. They often don't feel good enough and they try to use outward appearances, or financial or personal accomplishments to attract partners. This is the wrong thing to do and will only feed their insecurity when they keep finding partners that only want them for their material gains or accomplishments rather than themselves. 


If this is the case and the individual wants to be loved for them, then they need to first love themselves and then they will not have to overcompensate for feelings of unworthiness by using money or accomplishments to attract love. Instead, the person needs to learn that love is a two-way street and to be loved for themselves they must offer themselves in love so they can be loved and appreciated for themselves.

Saturn is about hard work and with Venus, the work needs to be put into self-love, and by learning to give of themselves in love or in relationships. However, they also often possess a fear of rejection and so they lack taking the action it requires to pursue a love interest and end up missing out to the next person that does take the action. Whether it's their lack of desire or their lack of courage many opportunities will pass them by because they just don't make the effort.

In love, they would benefit from being more aggressive, fearless and much more direct in their feelings and intentions. Avoid being passive aggressive or using games of jealousy to try to get their interests to make the first move. This approach for the right person rarely works because they have not invested the time or effort it takes to win the heart or love of the other person. In many cases, they more often than not push away partners through dismissing their importance, or disappearing, thinking it would somehow make their interests like them more when all it does it put separation and open up to the other person meeting someone else that puts the time and effort into them. 


They often take a "reject first before being rejected approach" but because they are so sensitive to rejection they often feel they are being rejected when they are not. This produces a cycle of rejection and disappointment because their partners have not had the opportunity to fall in love to care enough because of the lack of time spent together or care given to the relationship. 

In other words, they do not earn a person's love first it's almost as if they feel entitled to a person's loyalty without giving of themselves first. When relationships begin, they feel the need to withdrawal to test their partners love for them, this too backfires because it brings out feelings of rejection in their partner, and often turns out to be self-sabotage. When they could have instead been developing the relationship. 

It's important that with this aspect one understands that love is earned, but it's not through one's material accomplishments that one will find this. It is through self-love, and investing the time and effort it takes to win the love of another by spending time together, sharing and enjoying time together that builds a bond. This is not earned through rejection, abandonment, and tests, these will produce enmity, not love. Love is developed through time, compassion, sensitivity and love.

Some people with this aspect can be very insecure, but it's also true that others especially if the sign is in Leo,  can feel a "sense of entitlement" that they don't need to do anything to find love or have too much pride. The harsher of this interpretation is often seen more with the Opposition while the Square tends to produce more insecurity, fear, and frustration.

However if they want a love relationship they will need to realize that everyone needs to work for the love of another, it's not just a given. They can benefit from being more aggressive and taking more action and to understand that rejection is a part of life, and that everyone must go through it at times but if we all gave up we would never find it. Rejection is not likely to happen if you are confident in yourself, and most importantly love yourself and it's better to try to have what you want, then to let it get away and have regret later on.

Insecurity comes through strongly in people that always need to test their partners, or that need to speak highly about their material accomplishments for it appears as you are selling yourself rather than being yourself. Anyone with real material accomplishment usually does not want others to know for the reason of being used. Saturn is the planet of karma, you get what you give if you don't give anything you don't get anything either. 

The karmic implications of this aspect can create many problems in their relationships of all types but mostly in love relationships because we all must earn the love of another but it's harder for people with this aspect because they have a harder time understanding this or they are so afraid of rejection that they don't do what is needed, and later find their desired gets away, when they find another that does put in the work. 

The idea is to essentially give what it is you want in a love relationship. If you want rejection then keep rejecting, if you want a partner that genuinely loves you then earn that love. This is not about material accomplishment, it's about connecting with another person, being a friend, and having an open heart.

Yes, Saturn demands hard work, no matter what planet he is with but with Venus the work needs to be put into self-love first, but also into love relationships but also by overcoming your fear of rejection, be more vulnerable, go after what you want by being more direct, and stop assuming the worst. Stop missing out so you won't have many regrets later in life. Give love, Get Love.

A beautiful post of a woman whom I do not know that has lived with this aspect tells her experience so beautifully in the below post if you are interested.

https://m.facebook.com/notes/ysan-roche/hard-venussaturn-aspects-why-i-cant-love/1182182725199508/



Also, learn to let go, don't put so much pressure on yourself, relax don't be so uptight and serious, laugh a little and take more risks it's ok, you deserve it.


More on love blockers check out this:
http://illumeastrology.blogspot.com/2013/03/astrologys-love-blockers.html


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